Unleashing The Cougar In You
Guest Article By Linda Jacobson Franklin
Since I first started to write about the cougars, all hell has broken loose. “Age of Love” a dating competition like “The Bachelor” is pitting Cougars, ranging in age from 39 to 48, against Kittens, all in their 20′s. The older women compete with the younger ones for the affections of a 30-year old Australian tennis player.
On “Saving Grace”, a TNT series beginning this month, Holly Hunter will play an Oklahoma sheriff with a ravenous appetite for cigarettes, booze and sex with younger men. Glenn Close also returns to TV in July staring in “Damages on FX. These series are tapping into baby boomers’ who refuse to sit back and let a younger generation take over.
Here’s my gripe about all this Cougar mania. I don’t like how Cougars are being portrayed. To me a Cougar, is an intelligent, confident, beautiful women with a positive presence that has taken years to develop. She is definitely not a seedy, desperate women skulking after younger men in bars. Genuine Cougars, the Cougars I know and love aren’t the cheap imitations. They would never be willing to abandon their values, merely to gain the attention or the affection of the opposite sex. Women who do that are desperate and genuine Cougars and certainly not that.
A real Cougar chooses to fully embrace all of her beauty and brilliance no matter what age she is. She is ageless beauty, and the smart leader. She is a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. She knows she has a lot to offer the right man. Yes, she is attracting the attention of younger men, but that’s a bonus, only if she chooses it. She knows knows how to take care of her lovers, but more importantly, she knows how to take care of herself. She is disciplined and works hard to eat well and exercise both her body and her mind. She knows aging is inevitable – how we age is always our choice!
Achieving the rank of Cougar is a privilege not an embarrassment. But,even as I write these words, I know that being a Cougar isn’t that easy for many of us, especially when it comes to sex and feeling sexy. A narrow image of womanhood is handed to us both by popular culture and mainstream culture and those images, the ones which become as true to us as the very language we speak, can keep us from having a satisfying sex life.
But here’s the good news. Even with all the physiological shifts that we go through as we age, the truth is that a fully sensual life has far less to do with our changing bodies than it does with our own belief system. Start to think Cougar and watch what happens!
Cougars are married ladies and single gals too. They are 40 and they are 60. It’s every women who believes in herself and wants to enjoy life to the absolute fullest.
Linda Franklin created High-Yield Living to help baby boomers deal with life after 50. Her blog Boomers Making A Difference covers health, beauty, relationships, finance and spirituality. These are the the toughest challengers boomers are facing today. Linda’s believes “aging is inevitable – how we age is always our choice”.
Before starting High-Yield Living Linda was the first Canadian women to own her seat on the New York Stock Exchange. She was a partner in a Wall Street investment firm for over 20 years.
Linda’s own journey into life over 50 was the catalyst for the creation of High-Yield Living – Changing How We’re Aging. She did intense research for almost 10 years in preparation for this new chapter in her life.
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Sophie said,
June 16, 2009 at 7:27 am
Here’s what I want to know: What is the term for an elderly ‘cougar’?
What do you call a former cougar who’s now in the 55-75 age range?
I have seen a few, and they are really sort of frightening. I think it’s great that they are resolved to remain the forty somethings they once were…but visually they’re not fooling anyone.
My husband calls them ‘badgers’.
thecougar said,
June 16, 2009 at 6:46 pm
I think women should embrace each ‘season’ of their life as they choose. I do think it is sad when we can’t accept getting older as in the 50-60 somethings trying to look like they are still 20 by over tanning and wearing clothes that are definitely NOT age appropriate! Getting older also means getting wiser and having a stronger sense of self. If women could just learn to be happy in their own skin their sexiness would simply shine through.
And as for the ‘badger’ tag…well…I think you can find that at ANY age! =)